When you think about phone sex, the idea may sound intimidating at first. However, this is not really the case.
With the right knowledge and understanding of how sex lines work, you’ll realize that it’s not as cringe-worthy as it may seem when you first heard of it.
In fact, it’s a lot safer and more private than engaging in one-night stands and hook-ups. It’s also more exciting because of the element of mystery and anonymity.
And even if you’re the conservative type, you can try having phone sex and no one would know about it just as long as you take the necessary precautions.
Here is a complete step-by-step guide on how to have phone sex. This guide is great for beginners who are still trying to learn the ropes.
Follow these steps (and read the tips that follow) to have the best first-hand experience on phone sex you can ever imagine.
Prepare your logistics
Prepare everything you need before making that call such as your phone, the phone sex number, your sex toy, and lubricant (and perhaps something to help you get cleaned up after).
Make sure that the door is locked and the windows are closed. Ensure your full privacy and try to add extra layers of protection as needed.
Set the stage
Where do you want to have your phone sex – on the bed, couch, floor, or bathroom? What is the fantasy that you’re trying to fulfill?
Make sure to create the perfect setting to get yourself in the right mood for phone sex. Some ideas include; lighting some candles, getting naked, or playing soft music.
Relax and be confident
Keep reminding yourself that phone sex is private and confidential and that you’re completely anonymous. So there’s really nothing to worry about because you can assume a different character that is far from your real identity – no one would know!
Practice using your sexy voice, do some breathing techniques, and prepare to have fun. These can help you relax and boost your confidence.
Introduce yourself casually and briefly
Once you’re connected to your phone sex partner, introduce yourself casually and use a friendly yet sexy tone.
Avoid lengthy introductions because phone sex isn’t personal – it’s sexual and involves adult conversation.
After greeting your phone sex partner, start flirting to get the temperature rising or use a sexy icebreaker to set the tone of the conversation.
Role Playing or Suggestive Questions
Communicate your intentions to your phone sex partner. You can either gear your conversation towards a hot and sexy role playing session or erotic discussion.
The idea is to turn the heat up through sexually-suggestive words, statements, and questions. Here are some examples;
- “I’ll be your doctor tonight. I’ll ask you several questions and all you have to do is to answer yes or no. Do you feel sensitive down there?”
- “You sound exactly like the hot woman in my dreams. What do you want me to do to make you feel good?”
- “What works best for you, slow and passionate, or wild and naughty?”
- “Lights on or lights off?”
Be descriptive and express your pleasure
Phone sex can either be a lengthy or brief interaction – it all depends on how slow or how fast you go. But once you’re in the heat of the moment, describe how you’re feeling and let your partner know what you wish you can do together.
Be descriptive about how you’re touching yourself. Talk dirty, moan, sigh, and groan – whatever feels right.
The idea is to communicate your urges. Remember that phone sex is not just all about pleasuring yourself and absorbing the experience. You also have to return the favor by making sure that your partner is turned on as well.
Give instructions
Tell your partner what to do or ask them to tell you what you should do.
Giving instructions on how, where, and when they can touch themselves is one way of making the experience interactive for both of you. It also helps you develop a flow for your interaction and introduces a dominant and submissive element that can be exciting.
Verbalize your urge to come
If you feel an orgasm coming, let your phone sex partner know about it. After all, you deserve all the pleasure you can get from the experience.
Telling your partner that you’re on the verge of orgasm is also a major turn on that might trigger them to reach climax as well.
Final Thoughts
Before you hang up, give your phone sex partner your final thoughts about the experience. At this point, you might experience a bit of awkwardness or shyness. Or, you might still be drifting slowly back into reality.
Regardless of how you feel; a proper closure to the experience is a good way to express your gratitude and courtesy to your phone sex partner.